The First Job Is Safety, Not Closeness

Closeness cannot be demanded into being. In a blended family, safety comes first and closeness grows from there.

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A safe room in a loud world.

For stepparents, parents, and people learning to make a home together. Bring your questions and your complicated story. There is room for joy here too.

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